What’s Valentine’s Day?

I think if you had asked my wife she would have said either a chore or a teaching assignment! At least for the first 5 or 6 years we were married! Though not for the reasons you might think! First if you hadn’t caught on yet I am slow. Slow to reason things out. Perhaps a post down the road can help with understanding that, but it takes me awhile to get it!

You see I would get her maybe the best and most expensive Kitchen aid mixer from Macy’s or a Neiman Marcus ‘something’ which took me awhile to discover that anything from there would cost me 6 month’s of my wage! (j/k)

It got me the reply … what’s this Dick?! Why it’s the latest and … Never mind! Thank you! This went on for many holidays including birthdays I’m sad to tell you! How many Valentine’s holidays work out just right?

Something Connie (my wife) and I used to talk about. We’d wonder if it really was a holiday promoted to keep greeting card companies in business to feed their families ? Someone else said that I think?

Valentines Day isn’t that bad and hopefully it brings a little more understanding at least for one day a year here, but what about people in Ethiopia, West Virginia, Laos, the Congo and so many more that don’t or can’t celebrate!

We were most interested in the kids … Can you imagine being a mom or dad and your baby is sick and maybe dying for lack of food, water or worse! I hope not! Rather you or I would like to just think of the great dinner and the movie we’ll see. There’s nothing wrong with that! Honestly! I just want all of us to realize how lucky we truly are on this day. But what about the other billions. I think we can love them too!

Again I would come back to you and ask what can we do? I see kids of all ages along with moms and dads and aunts, a majority of workers here who have a little bit extra! Could we go the extra mile and spare a quarter for each member of our family making up a dollar? A gift from our families only once a year? Connie and I thought so. We even started working at that and Connie’s most heartfelt concern were the Chinese kids … girls especially! What if we could love those few children in the almost 200 countries in the world. The love we could share and give today would be about $320 million ONCE A YEAR ! That’s a $160,000 per country! Just from only a $1.00 extra to take care of as many kids as we could that might not make it otherwise! Yeah our concerns were mostly for kids – our hearts went out to those who were least able to help themselves and kids always jump to the top of the list!

Imagine Love from just one day and only from one country in the whole world! How’s that song go … “What the world needs now is love sweet love … “ . Valentine’s Day is a good day for that here in the US as we will do this Saturday! Can we afford both? Who of you can help us do this?

Charity water ( https://www.charitywater.org/ )gets it all done without using any of the donations. Who can tell us how they do it .. Maybe we can do the same here !

That would be nice and as those of you who know me, I am a helper, giver and a ‘prayerer’ … is that a word? My love is to protect kids and those less able to protect themselves! I know there’s so many more of you out there and it’s great what each one of us can do! However many of us want to do so much more! We can together! We can do amazing things even with little money. Haven’t you seen kids raising hundreds and even thousands from their allowance, bake sales or car washes. We only have to get involved and share ideas. The only one stopping us is you and me. You know what trips us up so often in the course of all our lives and endeavors is fear! However, that which rescues us is always Love! That is what Valentines Day has meant for the past centuries.

There’s a scripture ”And the LORD, he it is that doth go before thee; he will be with thee, he will not fail thee, neither forsake thee: FEAR NOT, neither be dismayed.” ~ Deuteronomy 31:8.

That verse goes back even further. I think a great many of us believe that God is Love!

In most of our hearts I truly believe we want the absolute best for one another. I am convinced that God definitely wants the best for all of us!

This Valentines Day I pray is the most loving, memorable and fun day you’ve all had ever!

Can we make a difference? Can we help each other have richer and more fulfilling lives! Can we all increase our successes and joy together?

Go to www.richardlcarter.com and let me and the others know what you think and can do to contribute to everyone! God Bless! Rick =)

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I guess when you blog they don’t always come in order … like time wise. There’s one I need to post for you guys, that I did a couple months back so that it can help you! Not this one. Every blog will not be a literary masterpiece ( I might think so), but if it helps just one to move forward and be great then that’s good.

Oh, but you don’t have to be great … did anyone ever tell you that? You’re already special to many people if you’d just pause right now and think who do I matter to? No … STOP! Take two minutes and REALLY grab a scrap of paper and write down some names and special people in your life! This isn’t taped so you can come back and find me and where you left off!

Good! You have taken a Huge first step to change your life, my life and so many others here! It may not show next week or next month but it will show … you can save a life this week too!

You can help me to help all of you better and each of you to help at least one other here … I PROMISE! I know this because I have done so repeatedly over the past 50 years! I’m not bragging but the past month or two I have started to remember things I have done big and small!

I have as a good acquaintance Jeff Goins (http://goinswriter.com/ ) and he wrote the in-between book (http://inbetweenbook.com/ ). None of us do great things all the time … maybe just once by getting married. How many lifetime football players play in the superbowl? How many times do they play in it?! What do they do in-between? Not a lot you would most likely guess? Train , eat well , play with their kids .. go to Walmart and pick up glue … does this sound like you by chance?

Do they brag, … maybe or maybe not! You’re mowing the lawn of the widow in back of your place. You remember her as a child who always had the best cookies in the world (but you never told mom)! Mom knew but it was fine! You came home because your mom and your sister have cancer and they needed you; that’s important and life changing!

You saw a ‘bum’ on the street and boy did he smell! But you went with him to a BK or wherever and got him what he wanted to eat. See what you alone can do … love does a lot! Every little bit helps! I will repeat that … “Every little bit really does help!” ( you can tweet that) – Here’s where I need help … !

I haven’t got the foggiest idea on how to put that link in and get you back here to the blog. Do you know and can you help me?

I don’t’ know how to put a picture under my post headings to make this more fun! I don’t know how to get facebook links and likes along with twitter , email and youtube logos, on my pages so you can share with your friends and loved ones the stuff you think can help them! See, you could send something to your mom that would make her smile … or your wife/husband while you’re out on the road – letting her know you miss her and love her!

There are a lot of things you can do, will do, and have done to bring smiles into many many lives! You’re special! I told you that! I want each of us to remind the other from now on!

Why? Partly because I feel guilty along with many others of my time. We started telling the whole world we were gonna do it better in the 60’s and 70’s! We failed a lot, but we did get better. Now more than ever before we have a huge opportunity to make it better like the song ‘Hey Jude’ – by the Beatles – Paul McCartney! Julian, John’s son had the power to make it better even at a young age (my opinion / maybe Paul’s) and now with of us aging ‘we can still make it better’ … just you, just me, and all the rest of us ! We can make a huge difference each and every day. Stumped?

I am going to give you a simple exercise. Start to say please and especially thank you for anything and everything you can! You’ll start to see more and more smiles every day! I promise!

Meanwhile I need to be selfish and I am really asking how can I do the above things so this keeps getting ‘better, … better, … better, … BETTER~! ‘

Thank you and God Bless! Hugs to you all! Rick =)

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Where am I now!

Well, for one I am coming up on my 65th Birthday on Monday being September 29th. You knew that! I mentioned it in my last post. This month I finally figured out how to put a copyright date on my pages for the blog! Simple you say? Perhaps for many and I used to program and it was. Today is a hugely different story as none of us are the same as we were are we?

Hopefully we have grown and accordingly our likes and dislikes have changed as our lives have dictated. The point is we changed. Why?

Did we get smarter, get married, have an accident or other injury? There are so many things we were never prepared for!

I got burned out on programming. So it has taken me the better part of this month to work on getting pictures into my posts and getting pages copyrighted … by the way to get this © symbol you hold down the ‘alt key’ and type in ‘0169′ and there you have it! It’s simple really but then you have to get it to the bottom of the page! That eventually took a plug – in I found. It’s called ‘add to footer’ and it’s still complicated to me. I was able to use regular English in the plug-in to put it on every page as you can see~! Still working on the pictures. Why pictures?

Honestly, the reason I want pictures is because everyone else does it! The best reason I can see is it catches your attention!

In marketing, advertising and many more things you only have a split second to capture one’s attention! I know this as I have written too many ads and copy over the years. I am still pretty good at it too! Still a bit wordy at times like I mentioned last. We all need to learn that less is better. They call it being ‘minimalistic’. Presenting in a simple and brief way. This is good!

I think you will agree that too much information only serves to create confusion and what do you do when you find confusion? Walk away … run away … do you remember even?

This is all tiring and hard for me and takes me away from writing but it has to be done. It’s part of everyone’s life and yours! There are fun and yucky parts to all our lives and we have to do it all at least to start with. Why?

We’re all competing for something! I’m competing for your attention because I really want to help you and in turn we can help each other in becoming a better us! Really! We’re all important and we want to become more of everything we hope for that’s good! Even the worst of us.

In business it’s called a process. Studying is structured within a process. Laying out a whole plant for JIT (‘just in time’) production is a process! What is our process to become more? Perhaps you will ask more of what exactly? Say a better husband, or a better boss and heaven forbid a better employee! What process is involved in these? There’s too many you scream and I agree … I used to call them hats that I’d wear as a dad, a boss, a husband… and so it went. I succeeded in some and failed in others. Rarely could I repeat either my failures or successes! I had too many processes set up! Can you imagine changing the layout of a brewery monthly?! Insane! Why do we do it to ourselves!

Likewise, we each need a process that is best for each of us! More importantly we need to believe in that process until something or anything happens that proves to us this part should change!

Usually, we have to rewrite and reorganize our rulebook so that it works once again and we have more faith in it!

Faith starts within ourselves. It too is a process and for it to work well it has to be consistent in all we do! That way we won’t have second guess ourselves will we? We’ll gain more confidence in what we we’re doing at any time!

I didn’t do that as I should have. The result was I hurt too many people I loved.

You have to have a Faith, a Rulebook, a religion. Basically a process that guides you in EVERYTHING inside you! Otherwise you’ll get tossed around like a rowboat in a huge storm and being broken apart over and over!

I’m here right now and invite you to help me to help others. It’s growing and I am really looking forward to hearing from you! Time’s a wastin’ so maybe I need to post more often? Let me know what’s important to you.

One of my gifts I had growing up was being a one man human Google! “Go ask Carter he’ll know or he’ll find out!”. How do I stop this bully … or I got cheated out of my dad’s watch! What I hope to find are like minded people that want to help protect themselves and others from being hurt. More importantly bring solutions!!!

Bring it here in your comments to show others how you turned it around and had your success!

I guess that about covers it for this month and I hope this started you thinking about your process that got you success and times of joy! Share it here! God Bless! Rick :=)

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New Beginnings !

It’s September 1, 2014 and my son’s birthday! Happy Birthday son and blessed to have you! I am starting to write once again via this blog. I began my first book about the mid 70’s and wrote the dedication for it on my birthday September 29, 1977!

That was a very long time ago. So here I am again! I have written for over 5 decades for too many topics, but there has always been one continuing thread in all these years! Helping and protecting people from themselves and others wishing to hurt, abuse and in general use others for selfish purposes! Sadly, I have to be included in that group perhaps with many of you as well.

I want to provide a safe place for us all to help each other.

My basic core belief is nothing else really matters in life except each other! Follow me for a moment and I think you will agree! It’s really simple actually because without us – all of us – there’s no need for homes, workplaces, cars, bikes and the list could be endless!

I thought that back even in the 60’s along with millions and millions of others! We wanted to move boldly forward to reduce and perhaps end hunger , stop the increasing corruption and deal honestly in all that we did! Stop the wars! Put an end to the senseless killing for power , greed , by lobbies, huge corporations and yes even countries who didn’t care for any people except themselves!

So many of us idealized many things believing we were the generation to end all this corruption, evil and hurt. Then as we grew up things changed. Life happened.

Yes we got our schooling and entered into life! Found too often if we wanted to keep our jobs we had to keep secrets that in hindsight didn’t need to be.

In each of our own lives we began to wear different hats. As a man I wore one as a father and another as a husband. I was also an engineer spanning a couple disciplines in field engineering or sales or building nuclear power plants and even did nursing! I was also a friend, a patient, and so many of these I felt it required me to behave differently – wear a different hat.


It was well into my 40’s before I really started combining all the hats into many less to get it down to almost one! My only point to mentioning this from the get go is we need to know who we are … and what we are shouldn’t change no matter who or what we are dealing with. That is unless we discover new truths!

We all need a good Rulebook that is factual, truthful and can be counted on in all we do! I’ll be writing about that in the upcoming months as we all begin to help each other.

How can we help each other? I know a great acupuncturist in Upstate NY and in Tampa FL. Perhaps a subscriber has a need for one who is moving to one of those locations. Another is considering a car purchase or a repair and wonders what they might need to be careful of . I could go on and on. Responding to each others needs we can build a great community where we encourage one another and provide compassion. By helping just one be it here, or in your own community and doing it in love … I believe we will find increased happiness and excitement in each of our lives!

We are all needy at times as we are full of blessings at others and this is where life happens now as it did 40 years ago. Only now I think we need a new Rulebook – one that we can find comfort and truth in – some higher power that works for all we are now.

You check out the about me pages and it will tell a little more of me but I and everyone else interested will want to find out about you!

I also plan and hope we can find solutions that can be helpful for each of us in different and varied areas. I was always asked for help when other got stuck … I want us all to be willing to still listen first and if we can … help! Tall orders I was told.

I believe we all really do want to help. Has anyone ever asked you for directions? Even if you didn’t know I bet you’d say wait a minute .. Hey Charlie! C’mere you know where xyz street is or is there a Kia dealer nearby? Yes, for many of us we want to help and I hope and I am looking forward to meeting you! One by one kinda like a day at a time! We can make this a better world and community for each of us!

I guess this should be the end of this post but who says! Actually I want to tell you it will be monthly for sure. I know I can do that and not disappoint anyone. I hope to post more often but will guarantee monthly. Why? Sometimes my body doesn’t co-operate which isn’t a big deal generally. I have health issues so things happen. You’ll find out more as we go but I figured you would want to know when you’re going to hear from me and fellow subscribers. Fellow subscribers can answer in the comments once they show to be ok . No websites need to be listed.

I guess that about covers it for now and God Bless! Rick :=)

PS if I ‘talk too much’ let me know ! I’ll never get to the brevity of Seth Godin (http://www.sethgodin.com/sg/) probably, but I will try. Hope he doesn’t mind me mentioning him but he’s gained a lot of wisdom over the years like you!

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