Where has Christmas Gone?

Recently I asked you to tell me what Thanksgiving is. I still haven’t gotten a response of any kind. Perhaps you are all still out there wondering yourselves.

Here I sit Christmas Eve not feeling like Christmas. However I knew it would pass … not Christmas but that feeling. At least it used to. This year it is different and harder to face I hear from many. No, I too am finding myself at a loss. A big one is missing my family, but it has happened too many times before! I’m tired of it and I don’t think any amount of apologies will ever fix it I am afraid. Sometimes that just happens. Sometimes we have to move further on than expected we think. Tonight I am feeling very lost as I have too many times. I know God uses everything for good but tonight I so wonder?

The last time I mentioned, that a smile can save a life and I would tell you about that. I had a different topic in mind, but this one will do well! It’s during the holidays or anniversaries that suicide happens most often I understand. Not sure if it’s really fact, so I will ask you check it out. Don’t ever take anyone’s word unless you can find it yourself!

Going back to smiles. I was about 8 years old and standing near Onondaga Creek out by the Easy Bargain Center here in the Syracuse area. It was spring and I asked about it … the creek that is. Dad (really my grandfather) told me don’t lean over so far I might fall over … not good! Why? He went on to say that an awful lot of people had died in it. Whether they banged their head falling in or just plain drowned since there was nothing to grasp onto once falling in. I thought why would anyone risk falling in then? Dad went on that sometimes for all the wrong reasons some people felt that dying was the best thing they could do for everyone. They would come here and jump in and they would drown. Commit suicide? Okay.

I thought about that a lot for a long time and I went to the library … no google back in 1958 or so. I read all about it and thought some more. I also thought about my life up to that point. Nothing much good about it with abuse and being shipped around to whoever would keep me and the abuse there wasn’t any better. 8 years of life is an awfully long period of time .. A whole life! Dad must have been near a 100 what with his white hair! More than 10 times my age! 10 lifetimes!!! I had thought of killing some even to get away. Felt that was really really wrong in my gut!

It must have been really late May to Mid June. I thought hurting people was really bad but I was really strong but didn’t want to take it anymore and I decided I knew what I could do.

Left Assumption that afternoon after school and I knew what I would do! I was heading down to the Easy Bargain Center books and all. I was near or in front of Ed Guiths Hobby store on S. Salina St. And I fell with all the books skining my hand and I was probably crying and I was banging my hand into the sidewalk. It was sunny and a lady in a pretty greenish blue dress was bending down over me. I couldn’t see her at first but then I could see she had blond hair but couldn’t see her face. I then saw the most beautiful smile telling me it was ok and she’d help me. She did by getting me to my feet. She took a tissue that was wet I think and started wiping off my hand. I felt she cared and I felt her inside me ‘sorta’. I still don’t know how to explain it. Maybe for the first time I felt (maybe believed) I was worth more than the powder to blow me to hell! It all happened pretty quickly when I look back.

Still, I could see her smile with my eyes opened and closed for years later though I swore I would never forget her face .. I did. I turned back toward the Easy Bargain Center but stopped. Instead I turned and went home. I didn’t want to disappoint her. I wanted to be what I saw in her smile.

That smile saved my life that day. Truly! So what I am offering you are some thoughts on what else I try to find to keep going. I will tell you it’s harder than ever I think! Like feeling you can’t even count on God as much as you pray and as often … so get dressed and go out and find someone to give a smile to – a big smile to and perhaps offer a coffee to, or just listen to. Maybe they need a better coat. Another person that looks so sad … say can I help and say you look so sad maybe I can help … Anything to stop thinking about you … I also like to remember the song ‘raindrops on roses’ – corny I know, but any old thing that’s positive to counter the grief you’re feeling at that moment!

Elvis Presley used to sing a song, around this time of year. He was asking why can’t every day be like Christmas, but that was a long time ago.

Tonight Berkeley Mo. has taken the place of or added to Ferguson Mo.. Once again no one knows what really happened, but there sure isn’t a shortage of blame no matter what the facts are or turn out to be! I do know, without a doubt, that fear had a big part in it.

Christmas used to offer hope and joy and love for one another – rather than fear and suspicion – even if only a short while.

Start smiling at each other … What is the worst that can happen!? The other will think you’re a nut and while walking away they just might smirk!

Smile ! It could save a life! Always help when you can no matter how little or much! It counts!

Merry Christmas to all and to all I wish you Blessings! Just Rick =)

P.S. When my son was about 6 years old he came home “ Why can’t we all get along!” … went to his room and was crying. He had defended his best friend Darius … that was maybe 28 years ago. He wasn’t hurt physically, but … I think his wish for this Christmas and every day of the year would be all of us ‘Getting along!’ It hasn’t changed I don’t believe … God Bless!

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Getting shorter … er … being brief?

I keep telling you I am going to be more brief like Seth Godin (http://www.sethgodin.com/sg/) and I’m making some improvements, but I’m not Seth. I think you will find some truth and wisdom with him too!

My good acquaintance Andy Traub has a book about learning to rise early, which is a problem for me. Quite a few others too since his book keeps selling and selling! One of the keys was one has to go to bed earlier to get up earlier. This caused me to think that perhaps I might write more often and doing so just might make each piece shorter? What do you think?

Please check out the about me and business pages. This will confirm that the most important thing in this world are people like you and me, in my opinion ! Nothing else would exist except for us being in this world, and yet we keep hurting each other thoughtlessly . Too often we forget about each other and we need to stop. Really! I am and many of you have been about always helping each other whenever we can.

Back in the 60’s it was always our hope to stand up against those things that were wrong. You know, right and wrong! We wanted to fix it but we didn’t so much. So now we can begin again with small kind acts together! The past is past. We can continue now once again starting with these small acts! We should never give up! 1, then 2, and then 4, and then 8, … redoubled would result in 500,000,000 small kind acts in the first month alone! How many would that be in a year then?

This is what I have always been about, and even if done imperfectly it packs a punch! So many of you have helped too! Our record can and will get better! Let’s do it NOW!

I’ve said this before. Send a dollar a month to your favorite charity, or a religious charity. There’s like 26,000,000 (twenty six million religious charities alone) and 3 x that many together!

We all need to offer help to each other with advice, wisdom, smiles, local good works to wherever you and this newsletter can reach !

Even simple tips help like for those of us in the north offered by my post mistress Shannon! She suggested turning down the windshield visors to defrost the windshield more quickly after an icy rain … guess what it works! I didn’t know that before!

We can help each other a lot just by looking around and noticing others outside ourselves, which I neglect too often! I’ve said it before, that even a smile can save a life! More about that next time!

God Bless and wishing all of us a Very Merry Christmas with greater Peace and Caring! Thanks for stopping by … Rick =)

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Want Something Now?

Sure you do if you are on planet Earth. But why?

It is our nature (natural tendency) be it a sin nature or childish nature or inability to discipline ourselves and so many other reasons! Thoughtlessness?

I keep promising this one will be shorter and I am trying; REALLY! What brought this topic up is the Christmas / Holiday push to sell you this year’s car, the latest and greatest software, yet another dress or suit … you haven’t worn the last one yet … uhhh … from two years ago!?

I have 17 pair of jeans size 34×34 in several colors. Maybe there are tags on some of them and I have them on Craigslist for $85 as a lot price ($5 ea.). I have or have had other items as well!

Over the past decade I have disposed of over $100,000 worth of self help books and courses. 90% of them I have read and 100% I have opened but not studied! Why? So many were saying the same thing from a different perspective or not as well as a favorite person who explained things well and so the list went. I have gotten rid of 3, 4 maybe 500 books this year! Books I bought and never read as well just in case. They too were good and I thought I could use that … but did I? I allowed myself to be moved by emotion, fearing I would miss out! Truthfully never have yet, but sure wasted a lot of money!

Yessiree, I have at least $50,000 of programs and software and self help on my hard drive! Some of those have been there for over a decade! Perhaps longer! Never did do them!

Yes I bought them all and more! Hmm, did I really NEED them or just WANT them?

I promise you if I needed them, I bought them, and read them, and used them, and made some part of my life better! They didn’t help me by osmosis and ‘living’ with me! They only helped me by doing something with them. I am positive that has happened to you too!

Often we are accused of being human doings and not human beings. You know, just always being in a rush and not aware we are not being productive and many other worthwhile actions! Still we need to do things to be able to eat, buy a house, have children, serve at our place of worship and more!

My point is our natural tendency is to act without thought because whatever is shiny or new or just dreamy is most often a want and not a need. Sure, we should always have goals, dreams, wishes, but with a worthwhile purpose! Otherwise we waste our resources and 5 years later we haven’t moved! We’re poorer, but you all know this! I see this most often in how to make money products or how to be a better mom or dad (self help) and none work if you don’t!

Instead of making a New Years Resolution do it today! Promise yourself you will never buy another thing … anything … unless the old one is worn out or you used it all up! You need to be ready to move on to the next stage of your career or life working at making it better! I don’t care if it is a product I may offer or so many other marketers like Sears , Walmart, Macy’s, or another who you trust and value! Not even if it’s FREE (a just in case …)! If your process or tool works and is good enough right now you don’t need it! You want it! STOP IT! *

Always give yourself a day or two – if the sale ends today they’ll do it again next week, next month or next year! Guess what! It’ll have more features from self help courses to cameras, cars and anything you can name! You know that, so demonstrate how much wisdom you really have today! Help yourself if no one else today … then tomorrow you can help another! Merry Christmas and sending you smiles and laughter! Rick =)

* P.S. Only take free if you believe it can help you now! You must read it now too! If it can’t help now … DELETE , THROW AWAY, RECYCLE! Now!

Again … Merry Christmas!

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